Jennifer Lopez shares new details about life as Mrs. Affleck.
In FashionIn the December cover story, the actress/singer/dancer/beauty mogul reveals new details about life with Ben Affleck, including how they officially got together, the nickname he resurrected for her, named after their summer weddings and how they they will combine their families.
Lopez was on the set of the sci-fi movie Atlas for the interview and noted that her soundstage had a “Mrs. Affleck” sign, a gift from the crew after she said “I do” to the Oscar winner, first in Las Vegas in July and then at their second wedding in Riceboro , Ga., in August. Asked about the review, including New York Timessince he took his last name (legally and personally, but not professionally).
“What TRUTH?” The Hustlers the star said, seemingly surprised to hear that. “People will still call me Jennifer Lopez. But my legal name will be Mrs. Affleck because we’re united. We’re husband and wife. I’m proud of that. I don’t think it’s a problem.”
As for whether Affleck has considered changing his last name to Lopez, he replied: “No! It’s not traditional. It’s got no romance. I feel like it’s a power move… I’m very much in control of my own life and destiny and I feel empowered as a woman and as a person. I can understand that people have their feelings about it, and that’s fine too. But if you want to know how I feel about it, I feel it’s romantic. It still carries tradition and romance to me, and maybe I’m just that kind of girl.”
It was confirmed that shortly after she called off her engagement to Alex Rodriguez in April 2021, Affleck appeared in her inbox. The Tender Bar The actor, to whom she was engaged nearly 20 years ago, emailed her to say that a magazine had asked him for a comment about her for a profile — and she gave a glowing one. Lopez and Affleck, who had recently split from Ana de Armas, began corresponding regularly. Soon, they began making secret visits to each other’s homes. And he called her by the nickname he had given her years ago: “Little” — a nod to the fact that, at 6-foot-4, he’s a foot taller than the powerhouse artist.
“Obviously we weren’t trying to go public,” she said of rekindling their love story. “But it never escaped the fact that for me, I always felt there was a real love there, a true love there,” from whom she split in 2004 after almost getting married. “The people in my life know that he was a very, very special person in my life. When we reconnected, those feelings for me were still very real.”
That doesn’t mean rekindling love with an ex works for everyone, added Lopez, who is now in her fourth marriage.
“I don’t know that I recommend it to everybody. Sometimes you outgrow each other or you just grow up differently,” he said. However, for them, “We lost each other and found each other. Not to discredit anything in between that happened, because all these things were also true. All we ever wanted was to come to a place of peace in our lives where we really felt that kind of love that you feel when you’re very young and you wonder if you can ever experience it again… You go through all these relationships, and you’re looking for and connecting and disconnecting people, and you, God, is that what life is all about? Like a carousel, roller coaster, carnival? And then it settles down.”
Between their first and second turns together, Lopez made a lot of work for herself. A key component was learning and practicing self-love. “You become a cookie for people and you think that’s a noble thing to do, to put yourself second,” he said. “And it is not”. She also looked at the bigger picture: “Why am I never happy?” she said she asked herself. “I really felt that way for a long time…” She said she had to “find me” so she could be the best mother she could be to her 14-year-old twins with Marc Anthony. “It took years and years to really put the pieces together…”
Affleck told the paper that the draw for him was that Lopez hadn’t changed in the most important way — in her heart.
“There’s something innately magically kind and good and loving at the heart of who Jennifer is,” Affleck said. “This is exactly the person I remember 20 years ago. Maybe she sees all the changes she’s made, whereas when I see her, mostly I see someone who has maintained, against the odds, what always made her the most. incredible to me: a heart that seems boundless by love. It’s my idea of the kind of person I want to be.”
The Bronx-born superstar even talked a little about life beyond the walls at Chez Affleck-Lopez in his Los Angeles home — and the efforts they’ve made to bring their families together. He called Jennifer Garner, the mother of Affleck’s three children, “an amazing countryman and they work very well together.”
As for her two, “They have so many emotions. They’re teenagers. But so far it’s going really well. What I hope to cultivate with our family is that his kids have a new ally in me and my kids have a new ally in him, someone who really loves them and cares about them, but can have a different perspective and help me see things that I can’t see with my kids because I’m so emotionally attached.”
Lopez said she’s learned a lot from Bennifer 1.0 — in terms of what to share with the world.
“We were so young and so in love at the time, really really carefree, no kids, no hookups,” when they first got together. “And we were just living our lives, we were happy and out there. I didn’t feel like we had to hide from anybody or be really discreet. We were just living it out loud and it turned out to really bite us. a lot under the surface there, people who don’t want to we’re together, people who think I wasn’t the right person for him.” fillet you. I really wish I could say more. I used to be like that. I I am like this. But I’ve learned too.”
But rest assured, this is a great time for her – and she’s riding this wave of happiness professionally and personally. In the coming months he will appear in the movies Wedding shotgun and The mother. She is also working on a new album which she seems most excited about.
“I’m not one of those tortured artists. Yes, I’ve experienced terrible sadness, like anyone else, many, many times in my life, and pain. But when I make my best music or my best art is when I’m happy and full and I feel a lot of love,” she said, adding that the album will be her most honest work to date. It’s “…the culmination of who I am as a person and as an artist. People think they know things about what happened to me along the way, the men I’ve been with — but they really have no idea and a lot of times they get it. It’s so wrong. There is a part of me that was hiding a side of me from everyone. And I feel like I’m at a place in my life, finally, where I have something to say about it.”